Tuesday, December 20, 2011
Fabulous Fro ❤ Jamyrlyn
Today I used a blow dryer and blew out my friends natural hair. It was her first blow out since she cut off her dreadlocks 5 months ago. We are all big and bad until we are hit with the realization of our own natural hair.
She has been very supportive while I've walked out my hair journey but now it was time for me to hold her hand. She thought that because she had worn dreadlocks for 10 years this would be easy.
She kept saying things like "it looks nappy" "it looks unfinished" "it looks like it needs a comb" and then came the power phrase....."I just need to put my make up on. Then it will look right." All the while I am laughing and encouraging her. I could not be more empathetic. I said and did all the same things and more. I GET IT, truly I do.
And this is what I have learned...
No more self-hatred.
No more put downs.
Natural hair, while it may not be mainstream or widely accepted, is good enough. In fact, it is just right. So Stop it! Stop beating yourself up. And if you want to take your natural hair for a glam ride, do it, even if you don't have your make up on.
Jam, you are a fabulous fro!